5 Ways to Be a Better Parent
Parents are responsible to teach, nurture, and love their children. The scriptures teach us how we can do that.
Establish open, loving communication with your children. Try to follow the example of your Heavenly Father, who always welcomes His children’s thoughts, worries, concerns, and gratitude. Listen carefully to what your children have to say, and offer thoughtful feedback.
Eliminate distractions while your children are talking to you. Ask your children how they are feeling, and try to establish an open conversation where they feel free to talk about their thoughts and opinions.
Children need to feel safe bringing up both everyday issues as well as topics that are difficult to talk about, such as dating, pornography, alcohol, sex, money, and so on.
Invite the Spirit into your home
Parents have a responsibility to care for the spiritual learning of their children. Read a few verses from the Bible or the Book of Mormon together each night. Talk about what you learn from the scriptures, and ask your children what they think. Studying the scriptures as a family can help them know how to seek and receive guidance on their own.
Prayer will help your children build faith, recognize the influence of the Holy Spirit, and know that they can always turn to God for help, comfort, and strength. Pray regularly as a family, and encourage your children to pray on their own as well.
Teach your children to make good choices
The Bible gives a beautiful promise: “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). So what is the way a child should go?
Set family rules and expectations. Ask for your children’s input when setting rewards for positive behavior and consequences of negative behavior. Teach them why you are establishing these guidelines. Then be consistent in carrying them out.
Your children are watching you all the time. The way you live your life will be the most powerful lesson you ever teach them. Be a good role model. Show them how you would like them to behave by behaving that way yourself.
Let your children solve their own problems
Help your children learn and grow by teaching them how to make good decisions. When the consequences are small, give your children the chance to choose for themselves. Resist the urge to help, and let your children make their own mistakes. Then you can lovingly help them learn from their experiences.
Ask them questions that help them come to their own conclusions about what choice they should make. For example, if they want to watch a movie that doesn’t meet your family’s standards, you might ask questions like, “What do you think about that movie? Why do you think it’s restricted for kids?”
When your child makes a wrong choice, be consistent with your family’s consequences, but turn it into a teaching moment. Help your child identify what happened, analyze what contributed to the outcome, and discuss what he or she could do better next time.
Show love to your children—no matter what
One of the most instructive parenting stories in the Bible is the story of the prodigal son. A young adult son refused his father’s advice, broke the commandments, and lost his entire inheritance through his poor decisions. This father had taught his son, raised him in faith, and then let him make his own decisions and face his own consequences. But in the end, when his child returned to him, the father welcomed him with love and open arms (see Luke 15:11–24). This story shows the unending love a parent has for a child—like the unending love your Father in Heaven has for you. Here are a few ways you can show your love for your children.
Let your kids know they matter to you and to their Heavenly Father. Reinforce the good decisions your children make. Commend their hard work. Praise their strengths, and encourage them in the areas in which they aren’t as strong yet. Help them learn that as children of God, their potential is infinite.
Make sure your family comes first. Though many things can get in the way, make sure your children’s needs are always a priority. Jesus set a great example when He said, “Suffer [or “allow”] little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me” (Matthew 19:14).