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    Answers to Common Questions: Why don’t you believe in having sexual relationships until you’re married?

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    Why don’t you believe in having sexual relationships until you’re married?

    God has commanded us not to.

    Keeping God’s commandments helps us to have a safe and joyful journey through life, and sexual purity is an area where obedience brings perhaps the greatest measure of peace and joy. The power to create new life is sacred, as is the intimate expression of love between husband and wife, so the Lord has commanded us to have sexual relations only within the bonds of marriage—that is, abstain from sexual relations if you’re not married, and when you are married, be completely faithful to your spouse. So much personal anguish and so many societal problems could be avoided if we would all keep this commandment. Marriage is ordained of God and has a special place in His plan of happiness for His children. By reserving sexual relationships for marriage, we elevate both marriage and the sexual relationship to their proper and sacred place in our lives.

    Responses are intended for help and perspective, not as official pronouncements of Church doctrine.

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    This article originally appeared in the March 2015 New Era.

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