“Whenever my dad and I talk about music, we get into a fight. How can I persuade him that it’s sometimes not a question of good or evil but of personal taste?” New Era, Jan. 2009, 35
It’s common for teens and their parents to disagree about music. One important thing, however, is that you not let it become a source of ill feelings between you. On that score, it may help for you to give your dad a fair hearing so that he knows you’re really listening. This simple act can go a long way toward preventing contention. Don’t immediately challenge or argue against his point of view, but ask him to explain it so that you can better understand it. Who knows? You may even find that he makes some good points.
When explaining your thoughts about music, focus on areas you know you and your dad can agree on—for instance, the counsel about music in For the Strength of Youth, which says: “Pay attention to how you feel when you are listening. Don’t listen to music that drives away the Spirit, encourages immorality, glorifies violence, uses foul or offensive language, or promotes Satanism or other evil practices” (, 20). If you build on common ground, it’s easier to discuss the areas where you disagree.
In the end, remember that he is your father, and you should do your best to honor him, even if it is just a matter of taste.