Raising Resilient Children

    “Raising Resilient Children,” Liahona, September 2019

    How to Help Children Become More Resilient

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    “The original definition of the word resilience had to do with a material’s ability to resume its shape or position after being bent, stretched, or compressed. Today we commonly use the word to describe our ability to bounce back from adversity. …

    “As children develop resilience, they believe they can influence and even control outcomes in their lives through effort, imagination, knowledge, and skill. … They focus on what they can do rather than on what is outside their control” (Lyle J. Burrup, “Raising Resilient Children,” Liahona, Mar. 2013, 11).

    • Consistently offer desirable rewards for the actions and behaviors you would like to reinforce.

    • Praise the child’s effort.

    • Tell children they have inherent worth because they are sons or daughters of God.

    • Define failure as temporary and as an opportunity to learn.

    • Define success as a product of hard work and sacrifice.

    • Discuss rules and set logical consequences that are reasonable, related to the behavior, and respectful of both parent and child.