“Communication,” Eternal Marriage Student Manual (2003), 31–37

“Communication,” Eternal Marriage Student Manual, 31–37


Related Scriptures

Job 6:25

“How forcible are right words!”

Colossians 3:8

“Put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.”

Hebrews 13:16

“But to do good and to communicate forget not: for with such sacrifices God is well pleased.”

James 1:19–20

“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

“For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”

James 3:2

“For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man, and able also to bridle the whole body.”

Mosiah 2:32

“Beware lest there shall arise contentions among you.”

Alma 12:14

“For our words will condemn us.”

3 Nephi 11:29

“He that hath the spirit of contention is not of me, but is of the devil, who is the father of contention.”

Doctrine and Covenants 20:54

“And see that there is no iniquity in the church, neither hardness with each other, neither lying, backbiting, nor evil speaking.”

Doctrine and Covenants 88:124

“Cease to find fault one with another.”

Doctrine and Covenants 136:23–24

“Cease to contend one with another; cease to speak evil one of another.

“Cease drunkenness; and let your words tend to edifying one another.”

Selected Teachings

Elder Neal A. Maxwell

“Communication, of course, needs to take careful account of the realities of our mortal relationships in order to avoid errors.

“William Edward Norris said:

“If your lips can keep from slips,

Five things observe with care:

To whom you speak; of whom you speak;

And how, and when, and where.

“We must be prudent and discreet and yet be willing to communicate, for true brotherhood is such that our friends and families will blow away the chaff in our communications—and do so with the breath of kindness.

“Thus one of the biggest blocks to Christian communication is that we are so afraid of being misunderstood. So, when in doubt, we withhold. Yet Paul said to speak the truth in love; we can then take the chance. We worry (and understandably so) that some communications will only produce more distance. But silence is very risky, too. …

“Usually, when we do not know somebody, it is difficult for us to trust them, and this becomes a restraint upon communication and growth. Opening the windows of the soul helps us to build healthy relationships. But if those windows are always closed or the blinds are drawn, it is difficult to help; one simply does not know what is needed” (All These Things Shall Give Thee Experience, 81–82).