“Contents,” Ensign, Sept. 1981EnsignSeptember 1981Volume 11 Number 9ContentsSpecial FeaturesFirst Presidency Message: We Believe in Being ChastePresident Marion G. RomneyWhat the Lord Requires of FathersElder Robert L. Backman“I’m Brother Hughes, Your Home Teacher”W. Martine BatesDifferent Directions, Different MethodsCarolyn Manning Brink“Be of Good Cheer”: The Jimmy Lawrence LegacyMary Kay PeirceWhy Our Toddlers Enjoy Home EveningMarion D. StewartDisaster on the MissouriGeri BerbertThree HousesKenley ReeseFor Husbands and WivesMaking a Marriage Work Elder Hugh W. PinnockBreaking the Cycle: A Case Study of Conflict in Marriage C. Ross ClementTaking Action—with a Plan! S. Brent ScharmanGetting to Know You Better: A Marriage Quiz Brent A. BarlowThoughts on Marriage CompatibilityClassical BasketballTamera Smith AllredConfessions of a Non-GourmetAnya C. BatemanCatherine’s Faith: Vignettes from the Life of Catherine Jane Cottam RomneyClifford J. Stratton and Marsha Romney Stratton“Why Must I Live So Long?”Judy Grigg HansenRegular FeaturesPoetryA Sacrament Hymn Orson Scott CardSacramental Sonnet John S. TannerSacrament Thoughts Val Camenish WilcoxI Have a QuestionRobert J. MatthewsGayle Platt SpjutSpeaking Today: “Let Your Light So Shine”Elder Dean L. LarsenSharingMirthright: Living with My Son’s Chest of DrawersCamilla M. NorthrupRandom SamplerCommentMormon JournalA Letter Made the Difference Mary Johansen“For without Me Ye Can Do Nothing” Mark HartFoster Children—Our Blessing Mary F. GoodmanHow I “Found Time” for Gospel Study Ardelle Holderness“I Saved Sharee!” R. Gene AllphinFiction: Bus StopPatty Redd KenningtonNews of the ChurchOn the cover: Photography by Eldon K. Linschoten. See pages 33–48 for several articles on marriage.Marriage depends first and always on the two spouses, who can always make their marriage successful and happy if they are determined, unselfish, and righteous.The formula is:First, there must be the proper approach toward marriage, which contemplates the selection of a spouse who reaches as nearly as possible mature development in all the matters that are of importance to the individuals.Second, there must be great unselfishness, directing of the family life and all pertaining thereunto to the good of the family.Third, there must be continued courting and expressions of affection, kindness, and consideration to keep love alive and growing.Fourth, there must be the living of the commandments of the Lord as defined in the gospel of Jesus Christ.With these ingredients properly mixed and continually kept functioning, it is quite impossible for misunderstandings to continue or for breaks to occur.—President Spencer W. KimballInside front cover: Promises, by Judith Mehr, 30″ by 36″, oil on canvas, 1980. Located in the Church Historical Department.Inside back cover: Endowment House, by Cornelius Salisbury, 23″ by 32″, oil on canvas, 1963. Located in the Church Historical Department.