Preparing Your Child for Temple Baptisms and Confirmations

Young women and ordained young men can receive temple recommends beginning January of the year they turn 12. If your child turns 12 this year, now is a great time to help him or her prepare to go to the temple and participate in temple baptisms! Below is the second in a five-part series of articles and activities to help you prepare together.

PART 2 of 5: Practical Preparation

Practical preparation for the temple

Your child's first time in the temple baptistry can be very special, even life-changing.  But anything that's new and unknown can bring questions about what to expect.  Practical preparation, on top of personal study and spiritual preparation, can help.  Below is a list of reminders your child can review to help his or her first visit be more meaningful and comfortable:

1) Receiving a Temple Recommend

One step in preparing for temple baptisms includes having an interview with your bishop or branch president and receiving a limited-use recommend. Even if you don’t have easy access to a temple or your first temple visit isn’t happening soon, prophets have encouraged you to still receive and maintain an active recommend.  The interview is similar to the one before your baptism. You will discuss your testimony of Jesus Christ and His gospel as well as how you're doing in trying to keep the commandments. You are welcome to invite a parent or another adult to join you during your interview. (See Part 1 in this series for additional information about temple recommend questions)

2) Clothing

On the day you go to the temple, try to wear your Sunday best, but don’t worry about bringing any additional clothing. All temples provide each baptistry patron with a white jumpsuit, underclothing and a towel. If you have long hair, the temple can also provide you with an elastic hair tie for use in the font. You may want to bring your own hairbrush or comb to use when you’re done.

3) Entering the Temple

When you enter the temple, a temple worker will check your recommend and direct you where to go. Males and females go to separate dressing rooms to change. Private locker spaces are provided to change into the jumpsuit. If the temple baptistry is busy, you may need to wait. But the baptistry is a great place to think, ponder, and pray and there are usually scriptures available for you to read.

4) Performing Baptisms

When it is your time to be baptized, a worker will direct you to the font. There is a handrail to help you step down into the water.  You’ll likely be baptized for a few people, one after another. The baptisms will be similar to your own baptism but each time you will be acting on behalf of a deceased person. After you’re baptized, a worker will give you a towel and direct you to the locker room where there is a private shower to rinse off. Then you’ll go back to your individual locker, where you’ll change into the clothes you wore to the temple.

5) Performing Confirmations

In each baptistry, there is at least one room used for performing confirmations.  You will wear your own clothing for confirmations.  Priesthood holders will place their hands on your head, just like when you were confirmed after your own baptism. If you don’t bring names of your own ancestors, you might do confirmations first before performing any baptisms. These confirmations would be for deceased people who already had baptisms performed for them.

6) Enjoying the Experience

The temple is the house of the Lord.  It’s a wonderful place to focus on feeling peace and happiness. So relax and enjoy this wonderful experience as you serve God and others. Plus, kind temple workers are available everywhere you go in the temple and are happy to help in any way they can.

ACTIVITY: Plan Your Visit

As a family, write out a plan for a first visit to the temple. Parts of the plan could include answers to the following:

  • Which temple will I visit?

  • Who will come with me? Are there any relatives I’d like to invite to go with me?

  • How can I prepare a family name for the temple?

  • What will I do to help me remember this experience?

  • When will I go next and how often will I go?

In some temples, no appointment is needed to perform baptisms, but in other temples it’s best to schedule one.  And if you have any needs that may require accommodation, you can call and work that out ahead of time.  You can find the phone number and schedule for your temple in a list of temples on the church’s website.


Also, check out the other parts of this series below:

Part 1: Spiritual Preparation

Part 2: Practical Preparation

Part 3: Your Ancestors Need You

Part 4: Temple and Family History Blessings

Part 5: Preserve A Temple Memory