Let’s Have a Modest Conversation
August 2019

“Let’s Have a Modest Conversation,” New Era, Aug. 2019, 15.

Let’s Have a Modest Conversation

Confused about modesty? Let’s clear things up!

What Modesty Is (and Isn’t)

Let’s Have a Modest Conversation

When you hear the word modesty, what’s the first thing that pops into your head? Probably a list of clothing “do’s and don’ts” that you’ve been taught since you were little. But let’s try thinking of modesty in a different way.

What does it really mean to be modest?

Modesty isn’t only about what you wear; it’s also about having an attitude of humility and dignity.1 It’s about respect: respect for ourselves, for others, and for God. How we dress is just one way to show that we know our true identities as sons and daughters of God. We can be modest in dress, behavior, and language.

Who It’s For

Everyone! All of us are children of God, so He wants each of us to understand why and how to choose modesty. It can be as simple as choosing less revealing clothing, talking about others in a respectful way, or not participating in a degrading activity.

Why Modesty?

President Russell M. Nelson has taught, “The Lord needs you to look like, sound like, act like, and dress like a true disciple of Jesus Christ.”2 The way we behave and what we choose to wear show we know our divine worth, identity, and potential. As we follow the standards for modesty, we can gain confidence in ourselves and in God’s plan for us.


  1. See “Modesty,” Gospel Topics, topics.ChurchofJesusChrist.org; For the Strength of Youth (2011), 6–8.

  2. Russell M. Nelson, “Hope of Israel” (worldwide youth devotional, June 3, 2018), 16, HopeofIsrael.ChurchofJesusChrist.org.