2014
I feel such a strong attraction for the opposite sex that I’m scared I won’t be able to control my thoughts and actions when I start dating. What should I do?
February 2014


“I feel such a strong attraction for the opposite sex that I’m scared I won’t be able to control my thoughts and actions when I start dating. What should I do?” New Era, Feb. 2014, 39

I feel such a strong attraction to the opposite sex that I’m scared I won’t be able to control my thoughts and actions when I start dating. What should I do?

First of all, realize that you’re normal. The intensity of the attraction you feel is probably no different from what others feel. Secondly, do all you can to control your thoughts. Part of your difficulty may be that you’re allowing yourself to dwell on impure thoughts about the opposite sex. Controlling your thoughts can be hard, but you can do it.1 Third, keep perspective. At your age, dating is meant to be about having fun and getting to know a variety of people—not about serious relationships. And, as you are counseled in For the Strength of Youth, “When you begin dating, go with one or more additional couples. Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person” ([2011], 4). Following these guidelines will protect you and should give you less cause for fear.2