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    • Is it OK for me to have good friends who are not members of the Church?

      It is important that you choose friends who share your standards, but that does not mean that all of your friends will be members of the Church. President Thomas S. Monson taught: “Everyone needs good friends. Your circle of friends will greatly influence your thinking and behavior, just as you will theirs. When you share common values with your friends, you can strengthen and encourage each other. Treat everyone with kindness and dignity. Many nonmembers have come into the Church through friends who have involved them in Church activities” (“That We May Touch Heaven,” October 1990 general conference).

    • What’s wrong with having friends with lower standards?

      “Often, becoming prey to sin starts with someone choosing friends whose standards are not consistent with the gospel; and in order to be popular or to be accepted by peers, the person then compromises gospel principles and laws, going down a path that will bring only pain and sadness to this person and to his or her loved ones” (Jairo Mazzagardi, “Avoiding the Trap of Sin,” October 2010 general conference).

    • How can I do what is right and still be accepted by my friends?

      “You don’t need to compromise your standards to be accepted by good friends. The more obedient you are, the more you stand for true principles, the more the Lord can help you overcome temptation (see 1 Cor. 10:13). You can also help others because they will feel your strength. Let them know about your standards by consistently living them. Answer questions about your principles when you are asked, but avoid being preachy. I know from personal experience that works.

      “No one intends to make serious mistakes. They come when you compromise your standards to be more accepted by others” (Richard G. Scott, “Making the Right Choices,” October 1994 general conference).

    • My friend doesn’t feel that she fits in. What can I do to make her feel welcome at church?

      “We members must help with the conversion process by making our wards and branches friendly places, with no exclusivity, where all people feel welcome and comfortable. . . . Being warm and friendly are Christlike qualities” (M. Russell Ballard, “The Hand of Fellowship,” October 1988 general conference).

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    • How can I have good friends?

      “To have good friends, be a good friend. Show genuine interest in others; smile and and let them know you care about them. Treat everyone with kindness and respect, and refrain from judging and criticizing those around you. Do not participate in any form of bullying. Make a special effort to be a friend to those who are shy or lonely, have special needs, or do not feel included” (For the Strength of Youth, 16).