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    The Recipe for a Happy Family

    Mindy Anne Leavitt

    Nine ways you can strengthen your family

    Ever wish there was a fail-proof, ultimate recipe for a happy family? Mix a few things and BOOM! Happy family.

    Well, it’s not as fast as BOOM! But “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” has the answer: a formula for creating a happy home and family.

    There’s no secret recipe—just the basic principles of the gospel: “Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities.”

    There you have it—the simple formula for creating a happy family and the key to improving your eternal family relationships. That’s not to say it’s always easy, but all the effort you put into strengthening your family will ultimately make you—and them—happier.

    So how do you use this formula? Here are some ideas on what these principles could look like when put into practice.


    • Participate in family and personal scripture study and family home evening.
    • Make a goal with your family to better keep a commandment, such as the law of the fast or the law of tithing.
    • Make plans to listen to the upcoming general conference or to study the previous general conference together as a family.


    • Participate in family prayer.
    • In your personal prayers, pray for each family 
member specifically, by name. Think about their needs as you pray for them.


    • Say you’re sorry; say it often. And mean it.
    • Learn about the importance of Christ’s 
Atonement and the sacrament together and the role they both play in the repentance process.


    • Be humble and recognize that everyone, even parents, makes mistakes.
    • Remember what you love about those who’ve hurt or offended you.
    • Pray for help in forgiving others.


    • Obey your parents
Don’t speak badly or unkindly of anyone in your family.
Look for the positive qualities you see in each family member. Share with them what you admire about them.


    • Pray for charity—the Savior’s love—for the members of your family.
    • Find ways to serve your family.
 Write notes of encouragement and love. Hide them in lunch boxes, purses, or wallets for your family members to find later.


    • Encourage family members to share their feelings and try to understand each other.
    • Comfort each other through hard times and try to bear one another’s burdens (see Mosiah 18:8–9).


Offer to prepare a meal for the family.

    • Help out with things around the house, such as mowing the lawn, weeding the garden, or cleaning windows.

    • Help your younger siblings with their schoolwork.

    Wholesome Recreational Activities

    • Help plan family outings, vacations, or activities your family might enjoy doing together.
    • Go digital-less. Turn off the TV and other electronics while you’re with your family.

    Things to ponder for Sunday:

    • When do you feel the most joy at home?
    • How do you contribute to the joy of others in your home? 

    Things you might do:

    • Read the suggestions in this article, and pick one or two of them to do each day this week.

    We asked youth how they practice these principles in their families. Read what they said in the August 2015 New Era.

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