What’s in it for me?
When was the last time someone made you angry or hurt your feelings? Are you still a little upset about that experience, or have you let it go? One of the things Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ help you do is forgive others. As you forgive others, you follow God’s commandment to “forgive all men” (Doctrine and Covenants 64:10), but you also receive a bunch of blessings. Here are just a few of those blessings:
1. You strengthen your testimony of Jesus Christ. When you don’t hold grudges, Jesus Christ can heal you. As He helps you heal, your testimony of Him and His Atonement will grow (see Doctrine and Covenants 88:63; Psalm 147:3).
2. You have more energy. Not forgiving others can wipe you out mentally and emotionally. So when you forgive others, you trade in anger for happiness, confusion for clarity, and tiredness for energy.
3. You feel the Spirit more. Forgiving others helps you to have the Holy Ghost with you. Wouldn’t you like to feel more love for others, for God, and for yourself? The Holy Ghost can give you that, plus more peace and guidance (see Galatians 5:22).
4. You get blessings from keeping the commandments. Heavenly Father blesses you when you keep the commandments, and since forgiving others is a commandment, He can bless you even more (see Doctrine and Covenants 64:10; 130:21).
The Path of True Healing
“[Jesus Christ] did not say, ‘You are not allowed to feel true pain or real sorrow from the shattering experiences you have had at the hand of another.’ Nor did He say, ‘In order to forgive fully, you have to reenter a toxic relationship or return to an abusive, destructive circumstance.’ But notwithstanding even the most terrible offenses that might come to us, we can rise above our pain only when we put our feet onto the path of true healing” (Jeffrey R. Holland, “The Ministry of Reconciliation,” Ensign or Liahona, Nov. 2018, 79).
When was a time you forgave someone even though it was difficult? Share your experience below.