A group of young men and young women hold each other’s hands in a circle and smile at each other to encourage one another.
Continuing his instruction and encouragement to the Corinthian Saints, Paul taught that men and women are meant to work together and support one another as they follow the Lord. The intent of this lesson is to help you better understand why men and women need each other in order to obtain the highest blessings in Heavenly Father’s plan.
The roles of women and men
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A couple rides their tandem bike for morning exercise.
Consider the following questions as you look at this image of a tandem bike team.
What skills or abilities are needed to help this team succeed?
How might differences between the individuals strengthen their partnership and help them become more united?
As you study 1 Corinthians 11, ponder how men and women can righteously work together as equal partners to fulfill their divinely appointed roles and qualify for eternal life.
In 1 Corinthians 11:1–16, Paul addressed social customs among the Corinthians of his day that were not aligned with the Lord’s view on the divine roles of men and women. It is important not to confuse these customs with the truths Paul was teaching.
Through the Apostle Paul, the Lord revealed timeless truths about the divine roles of men and women in 1 Corinthians 11:11–12.
In 1 Corinthians 11:11 we learn that in Heavenly Father’s plan, both men and women are essential.
1 Corinthians 11:11 is a doctrinal mastery passage. Consider marking doctrinal mastery passages in a distinctive way so you can locate them easily. You will practice applying this doctrinal mastery passage in the next lesson.
Read the following statements from the proclamation on the family and from members of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, looking for ways men and women are essential in Heavenly Father’s plan.
From the proclamation on the family we read:
Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.
President M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught:
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Official portrait of President M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, 2004.
In our Heavenly Father’s great priesthood-endowed plan, men have the unique responsibility to administer the priesthood, but they are not the priesthood. Men and women have different but equally valued roles. Just as a woman cannot conceive a child without a man, so a man cannot fully exercise the power of the priesthood to establish an eternal family without a woman. … In the eternal perspective, both the procreative power and the priesthood power are shared by husband and wife.
Elder David A. Bednar of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles taught:
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Elder David A. Bednar, Quorum of the Twelve Apostles official portrait. 2020.
The unique combination of spiritual, physical, mental, and emotional capacities of both males and females was needed to enact the plan of happiness. “Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11). The man and the woman are intended to learn from, strengthen, bless, and complete each other.
1. Answer the following questions in your study journal:
Why do you think that in Heavenly Father’s plan, His sons and His daughters achieve eternal life together?
How does this demonstrate Heavenly Father’s love and respect for both women and men?
How could understanding these truths help you when you face contrasting views about the roles and responsibilities of men and women?
How could you apply these truths about women and men in your life (for example, at home, in church with other young men or young women, and as you prepare for your future family life)?
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What if people that I love do not marry or have children?
Some may worry or wonder about how Heavenly Father’s plan for both women and men can be fulfilled for those who do not marry or have children. With great compassion, President Boyd K. Packer (1924–2015) of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles stated these comforting words:
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Final official portrait of Elder Boyd K. Packer, President of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, 2000. Passed away 3 July 2015.
Those who do not marry or those who cannot have children are not excluded from the eternal blessings they seek but which, for now, remain beyond their reach. …
Your secret yearnings and tearful pleadings will touch the heart of both the Father and the Son. You will be given a personal assurance from Them that your life will be full and that no blessing that is essential will be lost to you.
As a servant of the Lord, acting in the office to which I have been ordained, I give those in such circumstances a promise that there will be nothing essential to your salvation and exaltation that shall not in due time rest upon you.
(Boyd K. Packer, “The Witness,” Ensign or Liahona, May 2014, 95)
Why does Satan want us to be divided as men and women?
President Jean B. Bingham, former General President of the Relief Society, taught:
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Official Portrait of Sister Jean B. Bingham. Photographed in 2017.
The adversary has been quite successful in his goal to divide men and women in his attempts to conquer our souls. Lucifer knows that if he can damage the unity men and women feel, if he can confuse us about our divine worth and covenant responsibilities, he will succeed in destroying families, which are the essential units of eternity.
Satan incites comparison as a tool to create feelings of being superior or inferior, hiding the eternal truth that men’s and women’s innate differences are God given and equally valued. He has attempted to demean women’s contributions both to the family and in civil society, thereby decreasing their uplifting influence for good. His goal has been to foster a power struggle rather than a celebration of the unique contributions of men and women that complement one another and contribute to unity.