2001
I Didn’t Fit In
November 2001


“I Didn’t Fit In,” Liahona, Nov. 2001, 31

I Didn’t Fit In

We all like to fit in, but this was one occasion when I am glad I felt completely out of place.

Recently I went on a soccer recruiting trip to a university in another state. I went to decide if I wanted to go to school there.

While I was there, some girls already on the team decided they would show the recruits what college life was like, so they took us to a party. This party was not the kind I was used to. Everyone there was drinking and smoking.

One guy at the party announced that all the recruits had to get in the middle of a circle and he would pass around a bottle of liquor for us to drink.

When I wouldn’t even touch the bottle, he said to me, “You’re not even going to taste it?”

“No thanks,” I told him.

He continued to harass me for a few minutes.

Throughout the party I felt very uncomfortable and wanted to leave. Finally we did.

The following day as I listened to general conference, I heard Elder Richard G. Scott of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles say, “Be grateful that your righteous life molds you so that you don’t fit where you don’t belong” (“The Power of Righteousness,” Liahona, January 1999, 81). I am thankful that I have lived my life in such a way that I was uncomfortable at the party. I felt that I was out of place there, and I am glad I was. I am also grateful I decided long ago that I would never drink. That decision helped me in my time of need.

  • Jeni Willardson is a member of the BYU 212th Ward, Brigham Young University 19th Stake.

Illustration by Scott Snow