“I can quit whenever I want.” Steve never thought of himself as an addict. He thought that his problem would eventually go away—maybe when he served a mission for his church, or maybe after he got married. But it didn’t go away.
Steve struggled with a lifelong addiction to pornography. He was able to hide his actions and behaviors. But when his addiction led to multiple affairs, he knew his life had to change. His wife felt extremely angry and hurt. She didn’t think that Steve was capable of doing something so painful to her and to their children. Steve felt convinced that there was nowhere to go, nothing to do, and that his life was over.
Feeling hopeless, Steve met with the leader of his congregation and told him everything. His leader advised him to seek a professional counselor who dealt with addiction. His leader also suggested that he ask his wife to attend counseling with him. Steve and his wife began attending addiction workshops and a support group for spouses of addicts.
When Steve learned more about the process of repentance and the power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ, he began to understand that Heavenly Father wanted to help him change. Even though there are times he gets mad at himself and feels down about who he is and what he’s done to his family, he feels hope. He knows that Heavenly Father has provided a way for him to move forward. It’s not an easy road ahead, but change is possible.
How has addiction affected you or those you love? How have you found hope?
If you are struggling with pornography use, get help now. You can find resources at addressingpornography.ChurchofJesusChrist.org. You may also want to consider a recovery support group. See addictionrecovery.ChurchofJesusChrist.org for more information.
Spouses and families are also affected by a loved one's pornography use. If you need help, seek information for your own path to healing on addressingpornography.ChurchofJesusChrist.org. Support groups are also available on addictionrecovery.ChurchofJesusChrist.org
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