One of the main reasons we were sent to this earth is to learn. This includes learning to accept that no one is perfect, that people will try to hurt us, and that we must forgive them no matter what. We are expected to go through this learning process and accept these things because it is the Lord’s way. His way is the way to happiness.
Though forgiveness is a simple concept, it is not always an easy process. As imperfect humans, we need time to work through the pain and anger we feel when wronged. But if we want to be forgiven by the Lord, then we must be willing to extend that forgiveness to others.
In D&C 64:9,10 the Lord tells us, “Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin. I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.”
Jesus Christ forgave everyone, even those who nailed him to a cross. He did not wait for them to repent of their sins or apologize for the suffering they caused Him. As with all things, we should look to Him and follow His great example. Some wait to forgive until the wrongdoers have apologized. That can take a long time. Sometimes it never happens. Waiting delays the peace we need. When we forgive, we not only allow ourselves peace; we may also help our wrongdoers begin their process of repentance.
The quickest way to forgive is by faith in Lord and His teachings. Through sincere, humble prayers, along with faith and obedience our loving Heavenly Father will help us let go, even when we do not think it is possible.
Holding grudges and seeking revenge are guaranteed to prolong suffering. The Lord can only comfort us when we turn away from hatred and bitterness. When negative thoughts come into your mind, refocus on positive things. Listen to uplifting music, read the scriptures, or call a friend or family member who can support you.
Finding true forgiveness in your heart is a wholesome and therapeutic experience that can bring you closer to God. Forgiveness is the only path to peace and healing.
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf teaches, “The more we allow the love of God to govern our minds and emotions—the more we allow our love for our Heavenly Father to swell within our hearts—the easier it is to love others with the pure love of Christ.”
Family, friends, and even strangers are bound to hurt you in this life. The way to greater peace is choosing to forgive, let go, and let Heavenly Father make things right.