As parents, we have a sacred responsibility to prepare and teach our children (see D&C 68:25). This can be a daunting task, especially considering the challenges of the world today. In this video, Church leaders and professionals explore how we can protect our children from pornography and prepare them to face challenges.
Build Trust and Develop Strong Relationships
Through prayer, we can receive revelation on how to help our children feel connected to us and the rest of our family. As we build strong relationships with each child, we give them a safe place to turn. We should let our children know that they can talk to us and that they won’t be criticized. Because of shame, our children may feel embarrassed or hesitant to talk to us. Some of this hesitation may come from our children’s unique personalities, but it’s easier for our children to approach us when they know they will be received with love and support.
Additionally, building strong relationships with our children helps them understand their relationship with God. Feeling valued and loved by earthly parents helps our children envision and trust in a caring Heavenly Father who gives instructions for their happiness. Our children are then better equipped to understand why God warns against the evils of pornography.
Believing that the plan of salvation comes from a loving Heavenly Father is an important part of our children’s spiritual armor. As we teach and show love to our children, they can come to understand that both their earthly and heavenly parents want them to be happy. We can prepare our children by teaching them that Heavenly Father has asked us to avoid pornography because He wants us to have joy. The following video offers ideas of how we might strengthen relationships with our children and talk to them about pornography.
Ideas for Taking Action
Here are some ideas that others have found helpful. Prayerfully consider what actions might be best for your family, taking into account that they may or may not be listed here.
- Consider your relationships with your children. Pray for revelation on how to strengthen each individual relationship.
- Study principles of effective family councils. How might your family benefit from family councils? (See M. Russell Ballard, “Family Councils,” Apr. 2016 general conference.)
- Seek to better understand how the concepts taught in Doctrine and Covenants 121:41–46 might guide your parenting efforts.